I was sexually assaulted when I was 12 years old.
I’ll segue but it’s related to that statement.
Like most Americans, I’ve been watching Trump categorize phrases such as:
Just kiss. I don’t even wait. And when you’re a star, they let you do it. You can do anything. Grab them by the pussy. You can do anything.
as “locker room talk” and I’ve been triggered by those statements. The entitlement to treat women as objects ripe for the taking.
There is a line that’s crossed here, and it involves consent. It’s the consent piece that is the issue. Not the words. I want to make that very clear.
When I was 12 years old, I went to a day camp over the summer. I rode the bus to camp, and my bus stop was the first and last stop which meant I was trapped for a terrifying amount of time with the two boys who shared the same bus stop. The two boys were actually a year younger than me but were larger and stronger and, obviously, outnumbered me. During the course of the summer, the boys harassed me. It started as verbal harassment, but it escalated and the attacks culminated in sexual assault which occurred multiple times over the course of the summer camp. I’ll never forget that feeling of fear and powerlessness, and oddly, I’ll never forget how I remember feeling like I wanted to comfort the bus driver who was too afraid to intervene because she didn’t know how to help me. I’ve been really successful in dealing with these memories, but every now and then they surface. On Friday, when this story broke, that phrasing was a trigger for me.
I think Trump owes every single American, women and men [except for the small subset of men who agree with him that it is “locker room talk”], an apology. He’s deplorable, and he fucked up my weekend by bringing these memories back to the forefront.
How about a real apology this time, Trump? A real apology because you understand that these (hopefully theoretical) situations you’re boasting about aren’t consensual which is what makes this triggering for assault victims. And need I mention, really disturbing considering the power trip you’d no doubt be on if you did actually ascend to the position of President of the United States?